Recently I have been going through a lot of change and that is not all external thimg but it is internal as well. Once I read somewhere- “When an egg breaks from inside a life starts whereas when broken from outside a life ends.” This tells us that all great things begin from inside and that is a real motivation if you want a change in yourself and your life too. But beware that changing yourself does not mean having everything in life under your control because there are certain things in life that always go out of control and they happen for a reason so that you learn something.
Sometimes in life, a sudden situation, a moment in your time, can alter your whole life, forever changes the road ahead….
Bringing Change In Yourself Mentally
First of all, if you want to change yourself always start by making positive changes in your mentality and bringing a much better perspective to life. So, let’s see what changes they are-
● Learn to be Yourself
When bringing change you need to first start by accepting yourself the way you are, respecting yourself and forgiving yourself for the mistakes you made for which you had to suffer. Learning to be yourself is not as easy as it seems but you can always start by being honest with yourself.
● Always love yourself and be honest with yourself
The very next step you do is love yourself after accepting the fact that you have your own choices as a different individual. You can’t satisfy everyone so, be yourself and people who really love you will continue to love you by accepting your flaws. Everyday when you wakeup and look in the mirror and remind yourself that you are good and beautiful even with your flaws because that is what makes you different from others and makes you special.
● Accept other’s flaws and learn to respect their decisions
This is one of the things no one taught me but yet I learnt it the best. In India people really lack of the quality to respect other’s decisions and society forces their decisions. Whether a person is white or black, straight or gay, carrieristic or housewife, wears western or traditional, has a child before or after marriage I think so these shouldn’t bother us unless they are not happy. Every person have their choices and this is their life and I think so they deserve to be treated well irrespective of their choices. But of course not if someone decide to take up the occupation of a serial killer….xoxo!
● Romanticize your precious Life
Nowadaus we often hear this phrase but we don’t really know what it’s trying to convey. Let me explain this- romanticizing your life means making your regular boring routine or doing normal mundane tasks in a way which gives it a twist and makes it interesting and enjoyable. Having adventures, trtying out things you like but never did before. This not only keeps your mental state healthy but also brings new colours in your life that you never even noticed before. It makes you appreciate the finer things in life.
● Taking care of your soul as equally as your body
Sometimes we get overwhelmed trying to be so positive and get exhausted. So, instead of trying again we quit but it was never the solution. If need be cry and let out your pain as feeling your emotions equally is also important, fall apart, be angry, think, have some coffee, have some good food, have a spa or facial, take cate of your body. Then, when you feel better, pull yourself together and start working on yourself again. Treat your soul nicely and let out the pain
● Knowing your Self-worth
We all are capable of a lot more than we ever realise. All we need for that to come out is a push over the edge. I still remember how soft type girl I used to be and after that one time when I was pushed over the edge and now you won’t find someone bolder than me. It was like the all new me was that version that I was meant to be. Things happen for a reason. So, never settle for less because you are worth the best and reminding yourself of that everyday is very important.
● Letting go of things that don’t serve you or anyone you love anymore
This is one of the things that I learned the hard way. Not everyone is meant to stay and neither can you do something to change that so just leave it. Leaving things or people is not always a bad thing because toxic people can harm you because they are not there for zero influence. In my life also I had to accept that I can’t change people and lost some people whom I loved a lot but they were just a bad influence and made me feel like I was not good the way I was and influenced me to be someone I wasn’t. But you can’t always do that, like in case of a family member you just can’t leave. So, I would recommend that try to make them understand bur if they still don’t then just accept that but in my case I just wrapped myself away from them and hat is the reason I am alone most of the time but it’s better to be alone than be with people who don’t understand you.
● Start chasing your Dreams
The one thing that can keep you motivated and keep you going is chasing your dreams. Keep yourself busy and you will notice nothing really bothers you anymore. When you dream of the beautiful future you want, nothing else will matter than to live. It actually activates a hunger for living your life to the fullest and makes you more open-minded and free spirited. Your dreams are the things that give you purpose in your life and life without purpose is not worth having it.
Sometimes the one thing we need for growth is the one thing we are afraid to do!
I hope that I could guide you guys to reach a better version of yourself and bring necessary changes your life for tge better. But remember that I can only guide you, the tough work has to be done by you only. You are the controller of your life so learn to take control of certain things in life.
Thank you for reading!
The Urban Girl 