Our generation, the so-called Gen-zs’ are quite different from our previous generations who are totally unfamiliar with us. But how can they understand us well when we fail to understand ourselves every day….
That’s because we are changing ourselves constantly into beings we have no idea of, to conclude none of us have any idea of who we are. There are moments when we think that we have finally figured out who we are but then life throws a swinger and everything gets messed up in a way that we have no idea how to deal with, forcing ourselves to change.
Our hearts are loving, caring, hopelessly romantic, but then again, we are broken, sad, anxious, angry, sometimes we are conflicted, indifferent and messed up but at the end we just become numb. When we can’t feel anything, we are unbothered, which leaves us as nothing but plain and simply mundane. But can we blame ourselves after all the things we are put through from the beginning. Since we are born, we are expected to be perfect, or society will fail to accept us as who we are. It all starts from expecting to be a topper, achieving brilliance in extra-curriculars,to be blindly obedient to anything we are told to do, to be self- sufficient but not too independentat the same time. Still, it’s okay, I guess, until you have no opinion of your own and don’t speak your mind. Bringing home straight A’s, taking up science as your subject, become an engineer or a doctor, have a high paying job, get married and have kids, be a good parent and partner then die – this is the life society wants us to lead and the moment you take a wrong step, it’s over for you.
Is having an independent life, being self opinionated, being true to yourself and your heart such a crime? So, one day, I snapped and decided to go with the flow, follow my heart, and loved myself, hated whoever I wanted to, fancied whoever my heart would want to. I want to have a good life as well but on my own terms. None of us want to end up like we mostly do- unhappy, irritated, and dependent without any free will.
Why are we the way we are?
This is the most difficult question one will ever face but something I have observed in the past few years is- the people of the this generation break the most hearts and at the end of the day are most broken themselves. This might sound like a filmy dialogue, but ask yourselves….isn’t it true?
So what if we try not to break someone, hurt someone even if we are hurt ourselves and if very much needed only to the ones who have hurt us (it is physically impossible to stop yourself if they have wronged you in the most nasty way). Take one step at a time and urge one another to do the same so that the sufferings and painful endings might become less in number.
Let us work for a happier and healthier future as it is the only way to obtain a beyyer one….
Too many young people itch for for what they want instead of scratching for it.
– Thomas Taylor
The Urban Girl 