The Urban Girl

When Do You Know That You Have Finally Moved On?

First of all, there is no finally moving on because even if you set yourelf free from that person there is always going to be that special feeling, those special memories that are gonna come back from time to time. But the most important thing is to be able to finally realize what’s worth waiting for and what isn’t. This was a recent breakthrough that I had myself after a year of ups and downs (well mostly downs) in that situationship.

” It gets worse before it gets better…..” as some people say, is exactly what happens here as well. It will hurt everyday knowing that there isn’t anything you can do to fix things or make yourself feel better. You’re gonna miss the old days, think why all of it ever happened but the truth is everything happens for a reason atleast it was for me. A simple and caring man on the outside but a complex, arrogant, stubborn, egomaniac man on the inside, on the other side was me who was a confident, high-minded, independent girl on the outside but literally the definition of innocence, a humble, social, crazy yet passionate one and the biggest fool of the year ’cause I couldn’t see what everyone saw coming. I guess love really makes you blind. But the thing is you don’t always make the same mistakes again and again, instead you learn, you grow and you mature to be hit by the hard reality every now and then. That’s life!

At last, to answer your questions…….. you know when you’ve moved on when you will feel lonely but you will be content in it ’cause you’ll realize that you’re better off as emotionally independent than relying on someone else for your happiness. You’ll be anxious when you see everyone finding their happily ever after but you know that your time will come and you’ll find love again and you’ll be matured enough to understand that everyone isn’t going to reject you because of your flaws but neither will everyone accept.

So, choose wisely, be happy and live in the moment and appreciate life….

The Perfect Wedding Song Playlist

The wedding season is knocking the door and all the excitement and fun with it. In fact, the same goes for me this month. As I have a big wedding of a very close person knocking on the door as well. Therefore, I created a playlist for myself and you guys as well. So, let’s tune into some lively beats and show some groovy moves…!

However, I couldn’t take out the time to create a whole playlist out of all the songs but did create a Joyful Mood list for grooving and getting the joyous vibe if a wedding. Link :

Dj sangeet

Kabira Maahi Ve (Kal ho naa ho) Leja re Mast Magan Do Ghoont
Buddhu sa man
Sooraj Dooba Hai
Halka Halka
Veere
Navrai Majhi
Lamborghini
Ghagra
Gallan gooriyan
Subha hone na de
Sweety Tera drama
London thumakda
Sweetheart
Ghungroo
Jay Jay Shiv Shankar
Hawa hawa
Kamariyan
Sauda khara khara
Kitthe rehe Gaya
Sawan Mein Lag Gayi Aag
First class
Aankh Mera
Morni Banke
Kar Gayi Chull
The Disco Song
Gulabo
Kaala chashma
Badrinath ki dulhania
Senorita (ZNMD)
Din Shagna Da
Bole churia
Uuff Teri adda
Shava shava
Garmi Chitta Kukkad Sau Asmaan Nachde ne Saare Hauli Hauli
Dhattin Nach
Zingat
Tamma Tamma
Naina Da Kasoor
Kaho Na Pyaar Hain
Madhanya
Dil Diya gallan Desi Girl

There are definitely more of them but for today this is it. Hope you liked the playlist and music suggestions.

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Word of the Year 2021 and Why

The year 2021 will personally be very important to me for the rest of my life. I have gone through so much, learned so much about life and the reality, and what I learnt has changed my life. When I look back at the version of me at the beginning of the year and look at the version of me now I see how much of a strong, matured, sensible and wise person I have become. Maybe I still couldn’t get rid of my short temper and triggers but I believe time must heal everything. The person I’ve become is a whole new individual and I am proud of her. To be honest, this one would have been the roughest year of my teenage period.

But if talking generally, it has been a rough year for everyone. Everyone’s life was changed due to this pandemic which also affected the economic aspects of the world. I changed and the world around and everyone else in it changed as well.

Therefore, I believe the word of the year is Change.

I was given the most memorable experience of love this year and then heartbroken at the same time and the people who know wgat I’ve been through also know that it wasn’t any ordinary heartbreak, rejection or break up for that matter because you need to be in a relationship for that but I was never in one. It was brutal for any person of my age. But then even if it hurt I survived and I was strong throughout. Then comes the part of my family problems…..yeah a girl kf my age can have that. I am not from a very normal family but rather a very dysfunctional one. My parents for that matter weren’t very supportive and nice either. And again I was strong enough to keep my sanity in these insane circumstances.

The rest of the world was facing something very similar in general as well. There was the insane politics, fight for food, for survival. Scarcity of vaccine for Covid-19 especially in India due to the massive population and some other political aspects. People were dying and many lost the people they loved. It was brutal. In the middle of that the countries were having conflicts and planning to start wars.

The world around us CHANGED FOREVER. Even if things become better they can never be the same. Whatever we go through in our life leaves an impression on us that can never be removed.

Therefore I hope and pray for a better 2022 as we come to the end of this year which was filled with heartbreaks, sorrows and Changes.….

Happy New Year Everyone….❤🥳🎁

Types of Winter wear that are on Trend this Season

After a wait of so many months, finally winter has come along. So, has the season of parties, celebrations, festivals, picnics, outings and fun. No less reason for being the favorite season of all. Well, amongst so many plans we need so many outfits but bummer, we have to cover them up. But what if you can add warmth to your outfit without spoiling it.

What am I here for? Let’s jump in to today’s blog and see what winter layers go with your style and aesthetics.

● Leather Jackets

● Faux Fur Jackets

● Simplicity Utility Jackets

● Long Wool Look Coat

● Colour Blocked Bomber

● Trench Coats

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Things to do in Winter at Kolkata

Winter is officially in and the party mood is too. Well, in that case plans should be made on how to spend the last month of 2021 with a blast and give a a nice goodbye to 2021 and a heartwarming welcome to the year 2022.

1. Taste the seasonal sweet like Pithe, Moa, Noren Gurer Rosogolla etc.

2. Take a morning walk at the Maidan.

3. Visit New Market to do some winter shopping.

4. Visit Park Street to have a look at the amazing Christmas decorations and have dinner at a fancy restaurant.

5. Go to Eco Park for a picnic with friends and family.

6. Go for a ferri ride at the Ghats or a cruise ride at the Millennium Park by the Ganges.

7. Visit fairs like Hostoshilpo Mela, Book Fair, Trade Fair etc

8. Take your kid to the Alipore Zoo for a fun day.

9. Visit the St. Paul’s Cathedral Church

10. Go to the Christian Para for having a look at top-notch Christmas celebration.

Hope you guys enjoyed it!❤

How to gain more interaction through Instagram Reels?

Not everyone one of us liked making Tik Toks but most of us not only love making Insta reels but watching them too. Well, it also helps in gaining more attraction for your Insta profile. So, if you’re also thinking of using the same tactics then this blog post can help you do that.

But first I would like to give you lot a short glimpse of how it can help you gain attraction in social media.

How does Reels help you in gaining more attraction?

First of all, reels are nowadays like an addiction to us, once we start scrolling it just doesn’t seem to stop. Therefore, most of the people on Instagram watch reels. Now, the time you start making reels Instagram helps people find your reels through the reels section therefore making you and your reels easier to avail. If you are successful in providing good content through reels it can help you gain a lot of audience and huge number of followers which can technically make you an influencer. By that you can also grt many paid work for collaboration, promoting and advertisement.

Tips To Gain More Views for Instagram Reels

● Use a lot of hashtags for every reel post.

● While pisting the reel give a goid cover photo to attract audience.

● Make reels using most of the trending music in both dance and content reels.

● Try not to make it too long unless it is a part of a clip which you cannot edit furthermore as people would wanna see it.

● Share the reels to your story, as the views on stories will be counted for the view for the reel as well.

● Make content that people relate to because if they relate then there is a high probability of it getting more shared.

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My Go-To Netflix Web-Series List as a Teenager

Everyone picked up many new hobbies, obsessions and habits in this quarantine period. Well, I did too- binge watching shows on Netflix and stress eating along with it. Even though I live in a joint family I really don’t get much of an entertainment and most of the days I bored and stressed. So, if you think living with many people never makes you bored or tired you are wrong, in fact it can make you feel rather lonrly at times. But when you have so many interesting shows to watch it’s a good distraction.

Let’s take a quick peak at my go-to netflix shows-

1. F.R.I.E.N.D.S

Now, who doesn’t love this show. One of the best and most popular sitcom ever to come. This one works like an anti- depression pill for me and most probably for everyone else as well.

2. Lucifer

Ohhhh! What a hot Devil and the sexy chemistry of him with Detective Decker it to die for. The love story of the Devil falling in love with an ordinary human and their endeavors together is just to drool over.

3. Sex Education

Being an Indian where talking about sex seems like a crime, I learnt the importance of sex education. Not only that, it also made me learn a lot more about relationships, love and trust. Most importantly as a teenagrr myself I found a lot to relate to.

4. The Bold Type

Being a feminist myself, I got a lot to look upto from this show. Rather, I learnt to embrace this side of me. Being a women this show gave me role models. It taught me that life is never easy but being independent, being myself and accepting myself for who I am is what we truly desire. Every young women should watch this.

5. Teenage Bounty Hunters

Who doesn’t like a little mystery and chaos? This one isn’t a very popular one but highly recommend you guys to give it a try. This show gave me something different than the rest of the shows.

6. The Vampire Diaries

Most of you have heard of this one. I mostly watch this one to drool over how hot Damon aka Ian Somerhalder is. Though the actors in this show lack acting skills but their good looks had some what made up for that but Ian cracked both categories. I also loved the character of Caroline as it was really a powerful and responsible character.

7. Never Have I Ever

An Indian- American teenage girl always struggling to fit in, it’s kind of relatable to us Indians. Most importantly the chaos and drama in this show us good. Though there isn’t much chemistry in the couples of the show but it’s good.

8. Kota Factory

This one has put up the real struggle of students at Kota. It portrayed the hard life, difficulties, hard work put in by students to get selected for IIT. I guess that is why people love this one.

9. 13 Reasons Why

Another show which portrsyed the real life scenario of students at high school. The bullying, the anxiety, the depression, the hard life of an ordinary group of teenagers. It showed how difficult it can get for a student to cope up with life.

10. Stranger Things

This one is a fictional show but God knows how much interesting this one is. I really don’t know how but this one is top-notch entertainment. I also found the love story of Eleven and Mike really sweet.

11. Ginny and Georgia

The powerful character of Georgia is one anyone can dream of being. A survivor, a fighter, a motivator and most importantly a dutiful mother to both of her children. She knows how to put herself and her family beyond everything else and following her principles she always manages to protect them by hook or by crook.

12. Riverdale

The mystery, the crime, the horror in this show is everything. It is so focusing that it can take your mind off anything which can be so fun and relaxing for a while. The stories in every season were amazing. Also the ship of Bughead and Varchie is a must.

13. How to get away with Murder?

Another crime fiction and another powerful female character I am literally obsessed with. This one ain’t that popular but people who know they just know. Annalise Keating, a very professional and powerful defense attorney with a very clear thinking, intelligent and logical mind. She is also an amazing professor and was a mother-like character to her special group of students who work in her firm.

These are my Go-to Netflix Web-Series. Hope you guys found this useful and informative. Do try these I assure you will not be disappointed.

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Things to do Pre- Durga Puja

Durga pujo has always been an auspicious occasion for bengalis in fact it’s the favorite time of the year for us. The joy, the lights on the streets, the rituals, everything just lights up the mood. But for us the best feeling is actually the wait of it, the shopping, the preparation. In Kolkata you will find people engaged in different activities before pujo.

1. Go for shopping at Esplanade

2. Enjoy the delicious street food of Kolkata.

3. Arranging cultural programmes and then rehearsing for it.

4. Meeting up with friends for making plans for pujo.

5. Visiting Kumortuli to take a look at the beautiful craftsmanship of Bengal which can give you the pujo vibes.

6. After shopping with your family go to a some amazing restaurants in Kolkata for a treat.

7. Make plans for pandal hopping with friends and family.

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Masala Potato Fries

Wondering what new could you make for your evening snacks? Now, you can add one more recipe to the new items’ list as this recipe is the perfect dish to give you a feel of restaurant style food at home. So, without wasting any further time of yours let’s jump into the recipe.

Ingredients:

1. Potatoes- 500g 2. Sunflower oil 3. Refined flour 4. Chilli powder 5. Oregano 6. Chilli flakes 7. Italian seasoning (optional) 8. Corn flour 9. Mayonnaise/ Ketchup 10. Salt to taste

Procedure:

• First take the potatoes and slightly boil them. Then cut them into shapes like fries.

• Now take 4-5 cups of flour in a bowl. Add corn flour, oregano, chilli powder, chilli flakes, italian seasoning, salt according to taste. Add some water and make a batter out of it.

• Now take the potatoes that are cut like fries and dip them in the batter.

• Now take some oil and heat it in a saucepan or colander. Then deep fry the potatoes that are coated in the batter.

• Serve the fries in a plate and serve with ketchup or mayonnaise.

Let me know after you have tried the recipe and whether you’ve liked it or not.

Credits: Debanjali Chakraborty

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My Review on Mimi: The Value of Motherhood Taken to Another Height

The recently released Bollywood movie, Mimi directed by Laxman Utekar, starring Kriti Sanon and Pankaj Tripathy was one of the best work of Bollywood so far. The sweet, emotional, pleasant movie won everyone’s hearts by its loving story of a surrogate mother. I personally loved the movie and the acting was just top notch. This isn’t the first Bollywood movie on surrogate mother as we know from Chori Chori Chupke Chupke but personally it wasn’t as heart warming as Mimi.

This movie didn’t only highlight the bitter reality of this world in surrogacy process but also taught everyone one of us the meaning of Motherhood. One of my favorite dialogue of the movie- “Maa banne ke liye bacche ko janam nahi dena padhta, usse pyaar dena hota hai”, itself says that for becoming a mother you don’t have to give birth to your child but you have to give that love. In India there are still many people who refuse adoption and don’t consider it an option while there are so many children waiting for someone to give them the love their birth parents refused to give them. All they want is parents to love them and take care of them. Everyone should be more invested and eager to adopt babies as that is the best charity you can ever provide to this world and make it a better place. We learnt this from Mimi. Not only that, Mimi taught us that it is okay to dream of things even if they are nearly impossible and she taught us how to be an ambitious woman and to love ourselves the way we are.

I wouldn’t say that Mimi was picture perfect as it had some mistakes like any other movie. The fact that Mimi’s parents didn’t throw her out of her house being the typical lower class family was something I found really abnormal. Belonging from a middle class family myself, I am pretty sure that my family would kill me if they even heard I was kissing a person and pregnancy is far from it. Secondly how are the small town people of Rajasthan being chilled about a white child, like they should be reacting more than that and to be honest maybe within a week 9f tge baby’s arrival they would have called the press to view such a miracle.

However, the movie altogether was really beautiful and heart warming. I am pretty sure everyone loved the movie and most of us even weeling while watching the film.

Hope you found it useful! See you in my next blog.

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